Finding Your Person: 5 Tips for Choosing the Right Therapist

Looking for a therapist can feel overwhelming. Most people decide to look for a therapist once whatever they're going through begins to feel intolerable (so, if this is you, you're not alone!). Imagine feeling overwhelmed and then on top of that having to find the energy to sort through literal hundreds of therapists until you choose one that may or may not be the right fit... yeah, that would overwhelm just about anyone!

Thing is, it’s not just about finding any therapist—it’s about finding the right one for you. Someone who doesn’t just listen, but really understands you, challenges you in ways that feel safe, and makes therapy a space where you can be your authentic self.

The truth is that finding this can take time, and that’s completely normal. This is what brings us to this blog. We want to do our part in getting this process started for you

Here are five tips to help you find the right therapist for your needs:

1. Clarify What You’re Looking For

Before you even begin your search, take a moment to reflect on what you hope to gain from therapy. Do you want support with anxiety, depression, life transitions, or perfectionism? Are you looking for someone who takes a structured approach, or do you prefer a more open, conversational style? Having a sense of your goals or hopes for therapy can help you narrow down which therapists might be a better match.

2. Pay Attention to Specializations

Therapists often have areas of focus—such as trauma, grief, or working with young adults. Reading their bios or websites can give you a feel for their expertise. If you’re struggling with imposter syndrome, for example, a therapist who regularly works with high-achievers may better understand the nuances of your experience.

3. Don’t Be Afraid to “Try On” a Therapist

A first session isn’t a lifelong commitment—it’s more like a test drive. Notice how you feel during and after the session. Did you feel heard? Safe? Understood? Did the therapist’s style resonate with you? If not, that doesn’t mean therapy isn’t for you—it might just mean that this particular therapist isn’t the right fit.

4. Ask Questions Upfront

Many therapists offer free consultations or are open to answering questions before you commit. This is your chance to ask about their approach, experience, and what therapy might look like with them. You’re allowed (and encouraged) to advocate for yourself and gather the information you need to feel confident moving forward.

5. Trust Your Gut

The therapeutic relationship is one of the most important factors in how effective therapy will be. Beyond credentials and techniques, pay attention to your instincts. If something feels “off,” it’s okay to keep looking. When you find the right fit, you’ll likely notice a sense of connection, safety, and possibility.

Finding the right therapist can take time and it can feel discouraging, but don't give up! I promise, once you find a therapist that makes you feel seen, heard, and understood, it will all be worth it. When you find that fit, it can make all the difference in your journey toward healing and growth.

At Infinite Horizons Psychotherapy, we want to do what we can to help you find the right fit. That's why we've created a matching tool that will give you suggestions based on your preferences, reason for coming to therapy, budget, and availability. It's a free quiz that takes less than 30 seconds to complete.

Try our matching quiz here: https://form.typeform.com/to/X4qxr6mD 

Need additional help to find the right fit? You can also book a free consultation with our Client Care Coordinator, where you'll talk about what you're looking for and be provided with options. You can book your consultation here: https://infinitehorizonspsychotherapy.janeapp.com/#/staff_member/4/treatment/20